“There is no standing still because time is moving forward.” –Greg Lake–
Today, I feel more of a thinker / feeler than a mover / doer. And yet, I am both. As strange as it feels, it feels like I am right where I am supposed to be…
RIP “Grand-dad” April 29, 1925 – June 16, 2014
The Trifecta Effect
Selfishness: the most prevalent disease plaguing our society today. Surface symptoms are manifested & though easy to identify, create layers of seemingly impenetrable barriers covering the roots, causes & origins of. The definition itself is infinitely difficult to comprehend if one was to base their understanding on the meaning of the word. It’s an oxymoron. Or straight moronic, depending on your sense of humor or cynicism.
Lately, when I consider the actions of myself & others, I remove the word “selfish” & replace with one of two other words: “self-sabotaging” or “self-serving.” Even these aren’t always simple to define & immediately what they seem. Let me explain…
A couple of actions that I have experienced lately are: 1) caring for someone that is ill or in need & 2) studying. Both of these could fall under either category above.
Caring for someone that is draining your life force, reflecting back to you the very person you don’t wish to become & taking you for granted daily can be self-sabotaging behavior; you’re in essence not happy, & not contributing to a fulfilling life for yourself or the person that probably won’t ever be satisfied in the first place. Studying? Well, it’s like exercise for some people: it can be such an addiction that one becomes consumed with the very act of learning instead of applying. Perhaps they are afraid of success so “task” themselves into spiraling boredom, hopelessness or financial debt.
On the flip side, these behaviors can be incredibly self-serving. When caring for someone that truly loves you unconditionally & makes an effort to be there in your times of need (not always by our rules & expectations mind you), it at first can seem “humbug” as the locals in Hawai’i say. It takes a great deal of energy to attend to the needs of another, which is why it may appear to be better just to send a card. Though, after you make those long drives, night after night, stopping for chicken noodle soups & epsom salts… You wake up to start a full day with 5 hours of sleep maximum, feeling a level of light undefinable even by this gal’s words. When the person you care about gets better, it makes it all worth it. Sometimes, even if they don’t, but that’s a story for another day.
Studying; if you are passionate & driven about where you will take the knowledge, is likely going to facilitate your path to becoming a greater contribution to society, the community & the world.
Enter the Trifecta Effect. Win-win-win. Something makes you happy (as always I do not mean every second of every day you are enthusiastic about every single thing; that is inhuman, false & annoying I might add), it makes others around you inspired & it changes the energetic flow of the Universe.
At first, you might not feel enthusiastic, you might actually feel guilty, torn, exhausted or afraid. Actually, I have come to find that as they say “the things worth fighting for are the things worth having,” meaning that I can almost guarantee that I will feel one or likely more of the above emotions as I embark on the journey of serving the All that is, God, oneness, self, family or whatever your belief is. If you don’t have a belief, try looking up the “100th Monkey Principle.”
Yes, it seems counterintuitive. If it were easy, as they say in business, everyone would be doing it. Our behaviors are often both self-serving & self-sabotaging, maybe even at the same time.
Perhaps the key lies in the path of more answers than questions; peace rather than constant noise, love & serenity instead of perpetual fear & doubt. As always, I can only speak from my own personal experiences & I believe that conscious self-awareness opens doors never dreamed possible, starting with the reduction of the internal “clutter” that muddies even the sharpest of minds.
Me; selfish? Sometimes. Selfless? Quite often. It seems to be benefitting myself & others around me though, so I shall continue down this path. For now. If the road to the cure is a roller coaster of emotions, sheer determination, authenticity & perserverance; guaranteed I’ll make it.
Rest assured though, I am willing to admit, that I have not the maps, only insights & confirmation that the destination is not so important as the journey itself…
Less than a couple of months ago I heard the word “trifecta” for the first time. Then I heard it a few more times from different places & people. Or; as the person whom I credit with planting the term in my head (thanks for keeping me on my toes M!) smartly suggested, “Perhaps it was always being said & you’re just now tuning in…”
There are changes in the winds these days & little birdies have flown within my range, whispering of resurrections & a powerful movement. Oh wait… They were always there, I’m just now choosing to listen.
Checkmate? Not yet. Stay tuned…!
Mahalo nui loa & kulia i ka nu’u,